That was the title of a popular book when I was a teenager and curious about “the birds and the bees”. My parents were of the generation that didn’t necessarily believe in “having that talk” with their children. So I learned what I learned from kids in school, the book I referenced and TV. I don’t recommend that method of parenting.. A wise woman who was a mentor to me in parenting, Valera Bachman advised me about a year before Kristen went to Kindergarten that if I wanted a chance to tell Kristen and form her thinking I had better tell her before she went to school. Valera taught school for more than 25 years and I trusted and believed her advice. So at bedtime one night I went to Kristen’s room and Gary went to Jeremy’s room and we each had a book to read to them that explained the blessing and curse of the God given gift of sex. Kristen had a typical, yuck, reaction. From the other room we heard Jeremy and Gary laughing and Kristen being very bright asked, “Are they talking about the same thing?”
How brave are you? Get real with your group and share your experience of hearing about sex for the first time. Where were you? Who told you and what was your reaction?
What does God think about sex? Are you sure you want to go there? He likes it! He created it! God communicates on sex through His Word and He has a lot to say! I believe that He created sex for us and our good. He created it for intimacy, pleasure and permanency. The incredible bonding of the act of sexual intercourse is meant to connect us in a way unlike any other relationship. It is described as creating a unique oneness where two become one! Read Genesis 2:24. Think about the powerful act when two chemical elements are combined and create an entirely NEW element unlike the other two. I do believe that in the union of marriage, God created us to be MORE together, than either of us can be on our own. Sex can be a mutual enjoyment and encouragement in marriage that can bring pleasure to both.
What do you think? Read Pro. 15:18-19. Also, I Cor. 7:3-5, Heb. 13:4 and for a deeper study discuss Song of Solomen with your spouse.
Sex is such a powerful union that just as it has great potential for pleasure, there is equal opportunity for pain. So God’s Word offers boundaries to keep us from hurting ourselves and others. Read I Cor. 6:18. The prohibitions are for our protection. Read I Thess. 4:3-5. Where do these Scriptures draw the boundary lines? Read Romans 1:26-27, Leviticus 18:6, Leviticus 18:23, Exodus 20:14 and Heb. 13:4. Talk about the reason for these boundaries. Consider 1 Cor. 6:15-17. What are direct results and implications of “two becoming one”?
How far will you go? Think about and consider sharing how sex has enriched your life and how it has caused pain.
Years ago I read in Focus on the Family about a case study.
Renovations were being done at a middle school downtown. The tall fences that surrounded the playing area were taken down in preparation for replacement the following week. Typically, the kids would play right out to the fence line, but after the fence was taken down, the kids stayed in the central part of the play area and would not venture within twenty feet of the old boundary.
Boundaries can give us freedom and security. What can we learn about God and the boundaries in Scripture? Will the study of these Scriptures affect the way you regard sex and your sexual activity? How? Maybe you want to write a prayer or make a commitment to God about your thoughts and/or decisions.
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